philosophy

The Secret to Creating Elegant Solutions

I recently discovered a pattern for how I learn and absorb information from the world.

Whenever I’m picking something up for the first time, be it a programming language, new song lyrics, or a different route to drive to work, I never memorize or “get” the whole thing at once. One small thing sticks, and everything else builds around it.

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Twenty-One

Asian Barbie Twenty-First Birthday Red Abercrombie Dress

Abercrombie swing dress | A’Gaci heels

Content warning: This post discusses death and is probably one of the darkest things I’ve posted, but that’s why you have pretty pictures to balance it out, right?

I think a lot about being old.

When (if?) I’m so old that my body is stuck in life support mode while my mind wanders, will I remember my twenties? Will I regret them? If I could go back, would I change things? How so?

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Five Years Out

Dress made by me | Franco Sarto heels

The first person I came out to was my sister.

I was a sophomore in high school, and it felt less like coming out and more like I was confirming something she had known all along. She was the one who’d playfully taunted me for being “as straight as a circle” since we were little kids. Her reaction, though, was one of openness and acceptance, and through that positive experience, I was able to tell my friends, closer family members, and eventually the general public that I was queer.

It’s now been five years since I’ve started to overcome my own internalized biphobia/began to talk about the gender dysphoria I experience/explain to others that no, pansexuality doesn’t imply attraction to everybody out there. In honor of Pride month, I thought I’d do a quick touch-base with you all on where I stand on certain Pride-related issues that are prevalent today. If you’re the type to get easily offended, feel free to smash that red X button and come back for another basic outfit post on Monday. The opinions expressed below are mine and mine alone.

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Farewell to Third Year

Blue Floral Ditsy Print Bow Dress Beach

Unknown dress (found at a thrift shop!)

I still have a bunch of finals left (I’m literally writing this while taking a break from the two projects, two essays, and one exam I still have to finish/write/study for), but I’m pretty much packed up to go otherwise.

Looking around my empty room makes me excited and melancholy at the same time — on one hand, I’m so ready to get out of here and wolf down my mom’s delicious food again and get a taste of life as a professional software engineer. On the other hand, some of my closest friends are graduating this year, and it just won’t be the same when I return in the fall. Life happens, though, and I’ve found that the best way to deal with change is to accept it, move on, and make the best of your circumstances.

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I Just Wanna Live, Man

Sarasota Florida Burns Court Forever 21 Black Eyelet Dress

Forever 21 dress | Franco Sarto shoes

Someone recently asked me what I wanted to do with my life.

Answers immediately popped into my head, all of which sounded vaguely spiel-y. There was I want to build something great, of course, or I want to leave a legacy, or I want to get ahead in my career, or I want to live in a big, bright house by the water where the weather is always warm while working a job that is intellectually challenging, well-paying, and culturally fitting. But my voice seemed to have a mind of its own.

“I just wanna live, man,” I blurted out instead before I could stop myself.

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2017 New Years’ Resolutions

Everly dress | A’gaci shoes | Forever 21 sunglasses

Happy New Year! I decided to go the untraditional route and opted for a colorful shift dress that screamed “summer vacation (is only six months away)” rather than “let’s get glitzed up” to ring in 2017.

It’s still available on at the Mint Julep Boutique right now, so if you like it, snatch it up ASAP.

Despite having become quite a different person since first coming to college, my style has stayed the same; I’ve been and will probably always be a dress-and-heels type of girl. That doesn’t mean I’ll let things become stale, though. I have four fashion-related resolutions for the New Year:

Choose more eye-catching pieces for everyday outfits

I know I already wear enough show-stopping dresses that burn your eyes out, but a lot of the time I find myself opting for my “safe” option of a solid skater dress and black heels. Bright colors and pretty prints are unique, fun, and require a certain amount of confidence to wear with pride. I sometimes BS myself and say that I’m “saving” a dress for a special event, but what’s keeping me from wearing it now? Washing machines exist for a reason. I vow to look my best every day, even when I don’t feel like trying.

Spend less on clothes 

I’m an avid second-hand shopper, both online and in stores (the Plato’s Closet workers in my area know me by name). I make it a point not to spend more than $25 on any one piece unless it’s a special occasion like my birthday or Christmas. Of course, lots of small purchases add up to lots of hard-earned money going right from my bank account, so this year I’m going to cut down on buying things I know I’ll only wear once, no matter how cute they are, and commit to loving the items I already own.

Learn how to do my makeup properly

This one may surprise you, but my beauty-savvy friends have been laughing at me for years because I still wing my eyeliner down instead of up and use the same blush that I played dress-up with when I was five (true story). I’m so impatient that I usually don’t bother with a makeup routine at all. While I do enjoy the fresh-faced look for days where I sit in the library and code, there was a noticeable difference when I invested time into learning how to apply foundation properly instead of using BB cream as concealer. I not only looked a lot better in the few times I did apply makeup, but I actually started enjoying the process more. What a win-win.

Make more friends who are interested in femme fashion

I love, love, love girly aesthetics (you don’t know how much), but unfortunately, my current friends don’t share my enthusiasm for every single shade of pink, frilly hems, or huge bows. One of the reasons I created this blog in the first place was to attract like-minded people and start conversations. If you think you could be one of these people, don’t hesitate to drop me a line! Let’s chat.

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I hope you all had a great holiday season with minimal fights with relatives and intrusive questions about your life and future plans. Here’s to 2017!